When it comes coping with grief and loss, Holden Caulfield is the worst example. According to Dr. Geoff Warburton and his adventures with grief it is never a good idea to dottle up emotions, to make it so you don't feel. This is exactly what Holden does after Allie dies. He refuses to talk about his pain and the way he is feeling, he keeps everything inside in the hopes he will protect himself and those around him from that pain. Dr. Warburton explains that there are two ways the experience death, there are those who view it as why me and those who view it as why not me and except death. Holden Caulfield is a why me, he doesn't understand why this has happened to him, why it happened to his younger brother who had so much left to live. Holden feels guilty for his brothers death not being his own, he wishes that he had died instead of Allie. This guilt tears Holden apart, it's a huge burden for a sixteen year old to carry that weight on their shoulders especially because Holden believes he has to care that weight alone. Holden has no release of his emotions, so they fester inside until they explode causing him to make rash and violent decisions, such as taunting Stradlater. Dr. Warburton explains that to work through grief you have to face it head on, Holden pushes it to the side furthering his pain.
This Ted Talk helped me view death and grief in a different life. I have been lucky enough in my life to not have experienced mass amounts of grief in my life, but I know people who have, this ted talk gave me insight into what they are thinking and I how I might help them face their grief and help them know they have someone to confide in. When I experience grief in the future I hope I think back to this ted talk and learn.
This Ted Talk helped me view death and grief in a different life. I have been lucky enough in my life to not have experienced mass amounts of grief in my life, but I know people who have, this ted talk gave me insight into what they are thinking and I how I might help them face their grief and help them know they have someone to confide in. When I experience grief in the future I hope I think back to this ted talk and learn.